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"Paul was a great man. He always had a smile on his face no matter what was going on in his life. Paul taught me so many things as a young woman and now as a grown adult .and I will forever have those in my memories and share them with my children. Having him for my step-Dad was the best years of my life and I will always love him for never giving up on me.
Paul was the best thing that ever came in to my life. He showed me never to give up and keep on going and that is what I teach my kids today. He was a great step-Dad to me. Growing up I could not ask for a better step-Dad. He never gave up on me, always told me I will make him proud, and the days I graduated from high school and medical school he was so happy for me and said 'I told you you can do it', that made me feel so good. Paul always had a way of making you feel happy.
R.I.P Paul you are now in heaven watching over us. You will forever be my guardian angel. I love you and it's never goodbye, I'll see you again."
- Nicole Folk
"I miss you PaPa."
"It was a pleasure to know Paul and call him a friend. We worked together in Patrol on the east side of San Jose for many shifts. He always had a great smile on his face, always took care of his beat, never missed a call and was always there to be a great fill officer both assigned and roll-by on car stops. Just a pleasure to know Paul. He will be truly missed every time that I go to a PBA meeting, retirement luncheon or stop by House of Thunder. God Bless you Brother. See you on the other side!"
- Jim Wagner
"First of all, I am so so sad to hear of Paul passing. I am one of the Canadian Caltex group member. My memories of Paul are from the rides in the group gatherings, he brightened up the day whichever ride we were on, he was always one of those lives of the party, he was just so alive and so vivid - a great person to talk to and he would help anybody out. I have fond memories of him and they will last. Paul and his family are in my thoughts and prayers. God Bless."
- Brian Leah
"As a FF, I didn't have the pleasure of knowing or working with Paul. We first met when he joined our Wednesday retired PO/FF lunch bunch. We all looked forward to his presence. He surely added a welcome dimension to the group with his laughter and bantering, and we feel that we lost a good friend. I'm fortunate to have known him even though it was such a short time. I can't help but smile when thinking of him telling a joke, then laughing more than the rest of us. I looked forward to seeing his face and hearing his laughter. To me, his reaction to his own joke was usually better than the joke. I'm smiling now as I write this and I'm sure many others share my feelings. Paul was one of those people who enters one's life and makes it a little more enjoyable. Thank you Paul. RIP friend."
- Bob Vermillion
"It was my pleasure to be one of the first SJPD members to have direct contact with Paul. While supervising the officers conducting background investigations of new hires, my first opportunity to know Paul was on the telephone. Paul was very anxious to become an officer with SJPD annd called many times to check the progress of his background check. When I spoke with Paul it was very evident he possessed a great sense of humor and gift for story (joke) telling. After he was hired I never had the opportunity to work with Paul but established a friendship through our mutual interest of motorcycling. We were part of a very loose group of law enforcement people who shared our interest. Toni and I have shared many pleasant experiences with Paul and Nancy and will miss his humor and good will."
- Carroll Blackstock
Perhaps you can 'see' this message; along with so many others...
We just spoke before Caltex and Rich and I kick ourselves for not making that last ride with you. (No room at the INN) I will never stop appreciating your GREAT humor and 'from the gut' laughter.
From blonde jokes to everything else, we really enjoyed you and Nancy and loved 'staying up late' in days past in Downeyville, Montana, Canada or any of the various U.S. states we blazed through, sharing a good laugh as we watched you humor Nancy as she scored pockets at pool or raised a glass at dinner in Volcano. Paul, I told you at your 60th birthday party, that next to Rich, you were one of my great mentors. Without a doubt, you rode with grace and finesse, much like you approached much of life. After Rich finally launched me with Caltex riders, you allowed me to mirror your riding and this certainly raised my skill level 10 fold.
When you invited me to ride side by side with you during some of our rides, I was so honored. I really appreciated that opportunity. You see, during the Pacific Grove competitions, as well as various events, you were just so darned good at what you did. I had the best of the best trainers in all of the world..Rich and you. We loved travelling with you. So many funny stories and such great memories.
Remember the time you had to ride my little '91 FXR home from Montana due to your bikes 'mechanical issue?' I was grateful to have had the opportunity to give a little pay back for all of the skills I learned from you. One the funniest moments I remember about you was when we were riding through Priest Valley for Caltex I think, Spring 2005.
I had just started riding my new 2004 VROD and you asked to try it out.
I warned you it was fast. I have a picture somewhere....(still looking for it) with you after you returned and your helmet was darned near blown off of your head....lol.
But seriously, Paul, from the days following Bob's passing, you served the Department but always had time to talk and visit. You were one of the officers who really made me feel a part of the SJPD family.
You always called it as you saw it. You served your fellow officers by your loyalty to the POA to help improve conditions for your fellow officers. Finally, Paul, you and Nancy were always good friends to everyone around you. We were so blessed to attend your wedding to beautiful Nancy, your love. Funniest wedding though...glad that Elvis could be a part. We appreciated and loved your support at Cioppino Feed. From past SJPOA Keith Kelly to Valentine Dinner dances; to MMOC and Caltex, we loved sharing friendship with you, dressing to the nines with Nancy and having such a great time. While Rich and I were overseas, you took the time in the middle of the night to take my call regarding the passing of another of our Caltex friends.
Thank you, Paul for your friendship, your laughs, your great stories.
You made me feel we were always part of a great family. We all miss you so much. Rest in Peace, Calpauly...It was an honor to have known you."
- Kimberley Wirht
"Paul was my second FTO at SJPD. He and I both had prior experience and DID NOT GET ALONG. We were at each others throat for all the weeks we were together. I think the car atmosphere was "who can out do the other". Two type A's in the same car in the day was not good. We both had closing words at the elevator on the 3rd floor. No Bueno. Few year later, I was in MERGE an I believe Paul was working a specialized unit in the department. The two of us somehow ended up sitting side by side at the Cafe Meridian. For those who know, all issues were settled at the time at this location. Almost immediately our conversation went back to the FTO days. The first words out of our mouths was how stupid those days were. The exact words are meaningful and will remain between us. Paul and I became friends over the years and never spoke about the past. He was very proud of his family, his kids and his life as an SJPD officer. Several times we spoke about being step fathers and hated the term. They were not step children they were "our kids" My car partner for 20 years would often ride down to Harley in Gilroy with me. Paul and I would run into each other an discuss politics. He was a true American, Cop an Warrior. Rest in Peace and give me all 5's with the man at the Pearly Gates."
- Pete Pomerleau
"The first thing that comes to mind about Paul....always smiling that GREAT SMILE of his..! Paul was always a pleasure to work with. I was always happy when I noticed he was one of the officers on my channel. He was one of those officers that made a dispatcher's shift easier..he paid attention to the radio..had beat integrity..and took what ever calls I had to give him...even the ridiculous ones...with out whining..plus he had that smooth and calm radio voice that can work a bit like a soothing salve on the potentially frazzled nerves of a busy radio dispatcher. Thank you Paul for your many years of dedicated service to the City of San Jose and for caring about the citizens and your kindness toward your co workers. Rest In Peace dear Paul."
- Deborah Thomas Norling
"Even though it has been many years since seeing Paul when we met again at Frank and Laurie's wedding it was his big smile that I recognized immediately. What a wonderful time we had catching up with our families. When the Bouffard family (10 of us, soon to be 11) first moved to Lake Forest from RI, it was the Salerno family that welcomed us and quickly became our dearest friends. We have so many fond memories of our times together especially the Halloween parties in the Salerno basement. On one occasion that we still speak of was a gathering of the Bouffards at the Salerno's as we decided to have a singing contest. Paul being Paul ( and about 10 yrs old), was not shy at all and started to sing "Sink the Bismark". We were really impressed with his talent and knowing the words. Then........along the way, he forgot the words and not missing a beat, he started to sing "chee, chee, chee" until he got to the words back and finished to everyone having a great laugh. All of the Bouffard family were so sad to hear of his sudden passing and wish to express our deepest condolences as well as our disappointment that we will not be able to see you at the memorial service here in CT. We will all be at a family reunion away on July 24/25/26. - Joanne Bouffard Cantiello